Many women have particular ideas about how they want to give birth. During pregnancy they read, attend prenatal classes, talk with their midwife/doctor, and many others, who give information, advice, and strategies. It is very easy for a pregnant woman to become confused.
For whatever reason, when a labour and birth do not go as expected, the disappointments, guilt and disconnect from their baby are just some of the profound issues that women experience. These do not go away. They may fade as the years go on and the child grows and develops, but there are many times throughout life that can trigger these memories for a woman.
You do not and should not live with these feelings. However minor, or silly or embarrassing, or threatening the emotions are, it is very important to deal with them. Some women report just feeling empty, others can clearly identify what they feel.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Most women give up trying to talk to family, friends, doctors, and others about these feelings. The responses they get often exacerbate the emotions. It can even be difficult to discuss with your partner as men are also traumatised, but in a different way than the woman.
Many hospitals offer a birth debrief, particularly for a very traumatic birth experience. Whilst these can be useful, a hospital is always going to be on the defence, and may, at best, simply explain the medical complications – in a very medical way. That’s what they are good at.
The most useful place to debrief is with a trained professional who is independent from the hospital where the birth was.
At Birth Right I offer hypnotherapy sessions. Understanding medical records is a useful start, but delving into the subconscious mind and releasing all the negative thoughts and emotions is cleansing, enlightening and allows women to move on and have a deep understanding and acceptance of what happened for them and their baby.
“I did not think that anything could change the feelings I had carried for 3 years. I wanted to have another baby but every time I thought about getting pregnant, I would panic with flashbacks. I had 2 amazing sessions at Birth Right and feel a load has lifted. I’m now looking forward to getting pregnant and making different choices for me and my baby. I can’t thank you enough” Eleanor
Hypnosis is relaxing, enjoyable, profound and deeply healing.
It is simple. Bypassing the critical mind and tapping into the subconscious where all those emotions and memories are stored.
Don’t sit with these negative emotions because they can impact on your baby and your relationship. I recommend one to two sessions. These sessions are private, confidential and independent.