Here we go again!
Read my lips! CHILDBIRTH IS NOT MEANT TO BE PAINFUL!
O.K. I know this sounds controversial and every woman who has experienced pain during birthing is shouting “that’s just not true”
Headlines such as this one in the SMH, April 21st, are disturbing, and only fuels the fear that already exists in the community. As the article goes on to discuss, it is about reducing the fears of pregnant women.
BUT – we need to do this very early on in pregnancy, ideally before conceiving (yes, some do plan a pregnancy)!
For those who have not read my ‘Birth Right’ book (Random House), then let me outline some simple tips of reducing fear about birthing.
- Trust that you, as a woman, are designed to give birth gently and easily
- Shop around for a caregiver
- Shop around for a place to birth
- Shop around for a prenatal class
- Shop around for a doula
- Trust that birth is a normal event that should be enjoyed
In the both the Birth Right and Doulas book you will find a list of questions you should be asking all of the above, and most importantly, what answers you should be getting.
A well trained doula can help you navigate ‘the system’ and make the best choices. Every decision you make is being made on behalf of your baby. This is indeed, a responsibility to be taken seriously.
Making the right choices will guarantee you give yourself the best opportunity to enjoy growing, birthing and parenting your baby.
Having a relaxed, calm Mum and Dad, who have a wonderful connection with their unborn baby will ensure a beautiful birth.
There is nothing more life changing than to support a couple through this amazing experience.
This can be the most empowering experience a woman can have.