Birth and Submit

New ‘laws’ from the Church of England now require a woman to ‘submit’ to her husband in the marriage vows! A definition of the word – ” to yield oneself to the authority or control of another”. I’m just trying to understand how this might work in pregnancy, labour and birth? She wants a homebirth, he wants her to have an elective caesarean section – does she submit? He wants her to have an ultrasound every month, she only wants one! – does she submit? He wants her to be induced, to fit in around the footy final – she wants to let nature take its course – does she submit? Imagine, they are at home in labour, where she wants to stay for as long as possible but he wants to take her to hospital now – does she submit? He wants a doctor to attend, she wants a midwife – does she submit? He wants her to have an epidural, she does not – should she submit? He wants her to be quiet but she cannot help make those deep gutteral groans – does she submit? He wants her to do as the staff instruct, but she wants to listen to her body and her baby – does she submit? He wants the lights on, she wants them off – does she submit? He wants his choice of music, she doesn’t want any music – doesod she submit? He wants her to push quickly and hurry it up, as the footy final is about to start and she wants to ease baby out quietly and calmly – does she submit? Baby born – he wants baby to have formula, she wants to breastfeed – does she submit? He wants her body back to normal a.s.a.p. and wants sex 4 days after baby is born – does she submit? He wants the baby circumcised, she does not – does she submit? He wants the baby to be fully vaccinated, she does not – does she submit? I could go on, and on. It is challenging enough to encourage couples to carefully consider and discuss all their options from the beginning of pregnancy, through labour, birth and parenting. Where does this ‘submit’ begin and end in a relationship. Has feminisim died? Would love to hear your thoughts.