When does parenting really being?  When should we, as a society, pour resources into developing and educating babies and children?

Governments ‘talk’ about the importance of early childhood development, but I’m not convinced they really understand it is one of the best investments a country can make – to boost economic growth, promote peaceful and sustainable societies, eliminate poverty and inequality – simply by creating happy, healthy new humans.

It is the right of every child to not just survive but to thrive physically, emotionally and spiritually.

What is vital for healthy growth and development is that all children receive nurturing, loving care.

TYPES OF PARENTING

Everyone remembers Benjamin Spock who was an American Paediatrician whose book Baby and Child Care (1946) is one of the best sellers of all time.  I love this quote from him:  for mothers: “you know more than you think you do”

Spock advocated ideas about parenting that were, at the time, considered out of the mainstream. Over time, his books helped to bring about major change. Previously, experts had told parents that babies needed to learn to sleep on a regular schedule, and that picking them up and holding them whenever they cried would only teach them to cry more and not to sleep through the night. They were told to feed their children on a regular schedule, and that they should not pick them up, kiss them, or hug them, because that would not prepare them to be strong and independent individuals in a harsh world. In contrast Spock encouraged parents to see their children as individuals, and not to apply a one-size-fits all philosophy to them.

There has, of course, been a plethora of books on PARENTING since 1946, all of which promote various ‘types of parenting techniques’ – all presented with very strong beliefs that ‘their’ method is the ‘right’ one.  My observations over the decades has shown new parents are extremely vulnerable and are looking for practical solutions from ‘experts’ about how to raise their child.

Today there are plenty of parents who passionately believe in the importance of making sure their baby is in a ‘routine’, sleeps in their own cot/bed, and in their own room and who advocate letting them cry – the ‘let them know who is boss’ philosophy.

‘Attachment parenting’ is probably the opposite of the above and is a substantial movement of like-minded parents who believe a secure attachment is an advantage for a whole life time. The parent’s sensitivity to the needs of the child is a major determinant in whether a secure or insecure attachment will develop.

‘Authoritative parenting’: is where the parent provides structure and sets limits, but explains reasons for punishments in an effort to encourage independence. … the theory is children will grow up to be emotionally secure and enjoy higher self-esteem when they learn to separate from their parents at their own pace.

‘Gentle attachment parenting’ : The word discipline comes from the word disciple and means to teach. The discipline advocated by gentle parenting families is internalised. They argue that to offer rewards and punishments overrides a child’s natural inclination to try. It teaches them to behave in certain ways for a reward, or to avoid punishment.

The time from conception to three years of age, is when the brain is most susceptible to environmental influences.  Education, nurturing and love from conception, not only promotes physical, emotional, social and cognitive development, it produces lifelong benefits for health, productivity, socialisation and emotional well-being.

During this time, from conception to three, the brain develops at an astounding pace.  This is the crucial age when children form their first attachments and develop their first concepts – optimistic or fearful – of the world in which they will live.

Dr. Marian Diamond, Ph.D. Emeritus Professor of integrative biology at the University of California, states:  ‘if governments put millions of dollars into early childhood development, but the appropriate brain to receive the education, has not been developed – then this is a waste of money.  It is important to be sure that the brain has developed well – in utero’

Dr. Thomas Verney, Psychiatrist, in his book “The Secret Life of the Unborn Baby” states “.

“The ideas and the love a mother has for her baby, the richness of their communication, all have a determining influence on the baby’s physical development, the landmarks of its personality and character predisposition.”

When parents tune into and respond to their children’s needs, they will develop a secure attachment to their mothers and fathers, a base from which they can thrive.

Children without secure parental bonds are more likely to have behaviour and literacy problems.

So the question:  WHEN SHOULD PARENTING BEGIN?

ANSWER:  IN UTERO –  from conception.  

Our Inside Birth® prenatal course (and training) will show you the philosophy behind IN UTERO connection, education and love.  You will have fun, you will learn to truly trust and rely on your own instincts because no-one knows your unborn baby better than you do, and you will accept the power of your deep connection IN UTERO – without ever having to refer to a parenting book.

https://birthright.com.au/inside-birth-delivering-antenatal-classes-differently/

Economic studies reveal how the lack of nurtured development creates immense long-term cost to families, society and governments.

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In a research study, one series of I.Q. tests were given to children aged 2 – 4 years. How many children do you think were found to be highly creative with curious, questioning minds and an ability for abstract thinking?

The results were: 95%. Now imagine what happened when the same children were tested again at age 7. Only 5% still demonstrated high levels of creativity. In those few short years, they had learned to conform; “If you want to get along, you had better go along,” is what they had discovered.

The Dangers of Conformity

They had learned to colour between the lines, to sit in neat little rows, to do and say what the other kids did and said, and to do as they were told. Over time, they lost the wonderful fearless spontaneity of youth and learned to suppress ideas and insights that were unusual or different.

Today this is often expressed on social media by jumping onto anyone who thinks ‘differently’ or expresses an ‘out there’ opinion.  We may think that humans in 2018 are intelligent and are free to express creative ideas and insights but in reality this is still a very conservative and conforming society.

Conformity does not lead to critical thinking and positive change

Many people are not willing or have lost the capacity to think outside the box for fear of not conforming and being ridiculed and criticised.  And to think it gets knocked out of children by the age of 7 is quite shocking.

HOW CAN WE MAINTAIN AND PROMOTE A CHILDS NATURAL CURIOSITY AND QUESTIONING MIND?

WHAT WOULD THE WORLD BE LIKE IF THEY GREW UP TO AGGRESSIVELY SEEK NEW IDEAS?

Creativity is a birthright and new parents can begin this with their unborn baby – yes, you are reading correctly!  Start the education and creativity in utero with lots of fun games and interaction.  This way of thinking will be deeply embedded in the baby’s unconscious mind, which they will be able to tap in to easily and quickly for the rest of their life.  They will grow up knowing that creativity and healthy questioning is normal with an ability for abstract thinking.

If you want to understand MINDPOWER and the way it works in utero, then Inside Birth® Training is for you.  This training will give you all the tools you need to start your own Inside Birth® antenatal classes.  You will be teaching parents about MINDPOWER and how to engage in a fun and intelligent way with their unborn baby.

The Inside Birth® training is ‘outside the box’, you will learn how to deliver antenatal classes differently.  Teaching the power of the mind is a skill, not just for pregnancy and birthing, but for life – for Mum, Dad & baby.  Let us teach our children the importance of a questioning, curious and creative mind, and lets start IN UTERO.

Take advantage of our Early Bird offer for our next training in Nov.

https://birthright.com.au/training/inside-birth-childbirth-educator-training/

Time Line® Therapy was developed by the wonderful Dr. Tad James in 1985, applying a therapeutic process to the concept of an internal memory storage system.  The result was a collection of techniques which produces long-lasting transformation very quickly.  These techniques provide the best method to make fast, effective, long-term changes in behaviour.

Your ‘Time Line’ is how you unconsciously store your memories or how you unconsciously know the difference between a memory from the past and a projection of the future.  Behavioural change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level.  People don’t change consciously.

The Time Line Therapy® process allows you to work at the unconscious level and release the effects of past negative experiences and change inappropriate programming in minutes, rather than days, months or years.

Time Line Therapy® techniques are a unique and unmatched method for creating powerful change in business, education, and therapy. Time Line Therapy® utilises a person’s own internal “Time Line” to work with their unconscious minds in a variety of ways; including, healing emotional traumas and eradicating unwanted thoughts, emotions and behaviours.

Time Line Therapy® has been so successful in its results that it has been utilized since 1986 by thousands of people including psychiatrists, psychologists, marriage and family counsellors, social workers, life and business coaches, and even sport coaches:

• To let go of Negative Emotions from the past
• To let go of Limiting Decisions from the past
• Create our future the way we want

NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

Time Line Therapy® techniques allow freedom from undesired negative emotions; such as fear, anger, sadness and anxiety by releasing these emotions from the memories that harvest them. You are then able to react freely to future situations – without the emotional baggage of the past

LIMITING DECISIONS

Limiting decisions and beliefs prevent you from achieving your potential. These decisions and beliefs have come about as a result of past experiences but may have stayed with you until today and have limited your life in many ways. Time Line Therapy® techniques allow you to leave these decisions and beliefs in the past where they belong and to learn from your experiences.

CREATING YOUR FUTURE

Finally, having resolved the unresolved issues in the past, Time Line Therapy® gives us a specific way of creating our future dreams and goals in a simple process that produces results. The process involves using our imagination to create a compelling future that is inspirational and which brings about the desired outcomes.

I am always amazed at how quickly a client gets results from Time Line® Therapy. If you are frustrated by ‘talking therapies’ that take weeks, months or even years, and have not experienced the results you want, then make an appointment today and experience the value from Time Line® Therapy.

MAKE AN APPOINTMENT TODAY:

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‘Free birthing’ or ‘unassisted birthing’ is the process of intentionally giving birth at home without the assistance of a midwife.

Many in society would be shocked to think that a woman would even consider this option because we have been so conditioned to believe and accept that a birth should happen in a hospital, and many also believe it should be with a doctor.  There are still, today, many people who do not know or understand that having a midwife as a caregiver is an option – unfortunately not for all women in all parts of Australia.

A doctor is trained to diagnose and fix parts of the body that are broken – and for the most part they do that well, except there is nothing medically wrong with pregnancy and birth so what needs fixing?  A midwife is specifically trained to care for normal pregnancies, normal labour and birth and to recognise when a problem arises and to refer to the appropriate specialist. 

Problems in pregnancy and birthing are, of course, rare events – but once again that is not what our society has been conditioned to believe.  Women are bombarded with horror birth stories from an early age, from their own mother and family, movies, books and the intense over-sharing social media – and so it becomes ‘the norm’!

Just to clarify that ‘free birth’ is not home birth.  There are registered home birth midwives who provide an amazing service to women during their pregnancy, labour, birth and postnatally.

What makes women choose a ‘free birth’?

1. Women who have experienced a very negative previous hospital birth that has been emotionally and physically devastating
2. Women who have been abused in some way, emotionally, psychologically, verbally and sometimes physically – these women have NO trust in the system or the staff
3. FEAR – this is the underlying reason for many of these choices. It is often not a conscious fear but one that has gained momentum, in the mind, over a long period of time.  Extreme fear of hospitals (nosocomephobia).  Fear of doctors (latrophobia), or fear of medical intervention (often from stories they have heard)
4. A strong belief that birth is normal and does not require any medical monitoring. Interference in a birth comes with huge risks which happen only in hospitals.
5. This last one is important and that is You don’t know what you don’t know!  A midwife has many years of training and experience in recognising a problem which would benefit from medical attention.  And whilst we have incredibly high medical intervention rates in this country, most of which are unnecessary, medical care and attention has its place.

HOW TO ENSURE A WOMAN FEELS SAFE, PROTECTED AND HAS CHOICE

Firstly the FEAR must be addressed.  Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for tapping into the fear in the unconscious mind and healing – quickly and easily         https://birthright.com.au/#

Secondly helping women to truly explore their choices, and how to shop around for the ‘right’ midwife, for a homebirth or birth centre experience.  Acknowledge and respect the midwife’s extraordinary training and skills.

Thirdly – employ a doula – the right doula who can provide a safe, respectful and dignified space for women to travel through their pregnancy, labour and birth in their own way, understanding the rights of the baby to enter the world gently, quietly and in his own time and SAFELY.  One who knows how to advocate on behalf of the woman and her baby with respect.  https://birthright.com.au/doulas/find-a-birth-right-doula/

“Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom.” – Francis Bacon.

We live in such a noisy world, especially if you are in a large city.  We are bombarded with many difference sounds throughout the day – some pleasant, some not.  It is quite rare to experience true silence.  I am lucky enough to live in the beautiful Blue Mountains in NSW, in a particularly quiet space.  I spend 1 or 2 days per week in the inner city of Sydney.  I love to sit by the harbour and soak up the wonderful sounds emanating from life on the harbour – I even feel very peaceful and quiet, until I get back to the Blue Mountains where true quiet reigns supreme, and realise quiet, stillness and silence is almost impossible to experience in a big city.

WHY SILENCE MATTERS

Research throughout the past century has linked noise pollution to an increase in heart disease and tinnitus. The World Health Organization likened it to a “modern plague” and stated that “there is overwhelming evidence that exposure to environmental noise has adverse effects on the health of the population.”

It is not just the general noise around us, that we have no control over, we actually choose to bombard our body with radio, music, phone, TV, news, podcasts and conversation daily.

As the noise in our lives gets louder, more people are beginning to seek out silence, by meditating for 10-30 minutes a day or attending a silent retreat.  In 2011, 100 scientists took part in a silent retreat and discovered that shutting off speech heightens awareness in other areas. They practised vipassana meditation in silence, which aims to promote overall well-being.

10 days in absolute silence is not for everyone but finding time for silence in your life is something that will bring you and your brain much reward.

SILENCE RELIEVES STRESS

Noise has a pronounced physical effect on the brain, which often leads to increased production of stress hormones. Sound waves arrive at the brain in the form of electrical signals via the ear, which the body reacts. In particular, the amygdala (the part of the brain that is associated with memory formation and emotion) is activated, which leads to the release of the stress hormone cortisol.

A 2006 study to feature in the Heart journal showed that silence can release tension in the brain and body in just a couple of minutes. Researchers found silence to actually be more relaxing than listening to so-called “relaxing” music.

SILENCE REPLENISHES MENTAL RESOURCES

The never-ending attention demands of modern living place a significant burden on the prefrontal cortex of the brain, which is involved in high-order thinking, decision-making and problem solving.

All the decision making processes we go through in a day drains these resources. Noise and incessant sound drains it even further.  This can affect our focus, to solve problems and to think about new ideas.

Meditating in silence, or in the quiet stillness you find when walking alone in nature, or swimming, gives your brain the chance to let down its sensory guard.  We can once again tap into our creativity, we can reflect and enjoy the other restorative benefits. As Herman Melville wrote, “All profound things and emotion of things are proceeded and attended by silence.”

THE BRAIN’S DEFAULT MODE 

In silence the brain is disengaged from all that external stimuli, and we get to go deeper into our unconscious mind, rather than being constantly held in the shallow surfaces of the mind, with all of life’s daily distractions.

SILENCE IMPROVES SLEEP

Evidence suggests that periods of silence throughout the day can enhance sleep and lessen insomnia.

SILENCE IMPROVES MEMORY

Simply going for a walk in nature alone can cause brain growth in the hippocampus, which also can lead to better memory function. A 2011 study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences showed that adults who walked for 40 minutes three times a week for a year had brain growth in the hippocampus, the area of the brain associated with spatial memory. Silence does this and immersing ourselves in nature helps the brain to have better memory consolidation.

Science says that silence is good for your brain and general health, but common sense also tells us that spending some time in silence (in your mind) each day is good for you.

RECOMMENDATION:  If you do not practise any form of meditation and do not spend any time in silence, then do yourself a favour and start right now to experience the enormous benefits.  Start slowly, just 5 minutes a day and once you build up to 15 or 20 minutes you will find you cannot live without a regular practice of pure silence in your day.

The power that comes from intuition has gone for many pregnant woman.  The gut instinct that is so profoundly tuned to what is happening for a pregnancy and baby.  It has been lost, slowly eroded over time due to ‘other’s’ fears and inability to believe that what a pregnant woman knows about the health of her unborn baby, should be trusted.  It is all very well to say trust your body, follow your body’s lead, trust your baby, because mostly that is the opposite of what a pregnant woman is hearing, seeing and reading about.  These powerful suggestions prove time and time again to suppress and dampen a woman’s innate intelligence.

When women are relaying their traumatic birth experience in a hypnotherapy session, I hear over and over again women saying “I knew this wasn’t right, I just felt that my baby was actually O.K. and what they were telling me was not what was really happening, I had a gut feeling that I did not need this medical intervention…..”  BUT I felt all my power was taken away, and in a split second, all decisions were out of my control.  This common reporting is deeply disturbing.

One of the basic problems is a culture has developed that sends the message to women that you need medical help to have a baby.  This culture says it is quite normal to choose a doctor and a hospital to give birth.  Just think for a moment about that.  What is a doctors skill?  A:  to diagnose and fix a medical problem.  And many of them are very good at doing just that.  What is a hospital for?  A:  to fix sick people who have disease or are injured, or need surgery.  What needs fixing about pregnancy and birthing?  A:  nothing!

GETTING THE POWER BACK

True intelligence activates natural nurturing during pregnancy, birthing and bonding.  All these capacities are deep within every woman and have been built up over millions of years.  Women change when they become pregnant.  They are acutely aware of their true intelligence and connection with their unborn baby.  And then…… the onslaught of advice, classes, hospitals, doctors, midwives, books, media, movies and a society with a very flawed view of birthing hit her like a tornado, and is so overwhelming and confusing that it has become difficult, if not impossible for a pregnant woman to just connect with her true intelligence and trust herself and her choices.  If we can just get the intellect out of the way, all of these natural processes unfold spontaneously and brilliantly and are expressed naturally because the baby opens up innate intelligences within the mother.

When you have a system that TEACHES women how to have a pregnancy, how to give birth, how to bond, how to breastfeed, and how to parent it is hugely disempowering.  We must stop this intellectual interference in childbirth.  When you teach these things the message is very clear to the pregnant woman – You do not know how to do any of this and you must follow my (the expert teacher!) instructions and I will show you how.  This could not be more damaging.

At our Inside Birth® Educator Training you will learn to inspire women, deep within their inner mind, to get the ‘intellect’ out of the way to allow all their natural processes to unfold spontaneously.  We don’t teach the ‘how to’!

At Inside Birth® we specialise in reconnecting the true intelligence in women, to believe and trust in their instinct or gut feeling because they are always right.  Take advantage of early bird offer.  I will show you how to set up a powerful business teaching Inside Birth® and reconnect women with their true intelligence.

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BLIND FAITH is “belief without true understanding, perception or discrimination”.

So BLIND FAITH is when someone puts their faith into something without any evidence.

Once upon a time – not so long ago – most people had absolute blind faith in teachers, doctors, dentists, psychologists, psychiatrists and everyone had blind faith and respect for their parents.  Children were taught this from a very early age and so grew a generation or two that did not question anyone in ‘authority’.   As many adults could now report, as a child, it was simply not in ones DNA to question.  This indeed made for a simple life in many ways, well, certainly for those in authority.  As a child I did exactly as my parents told me and had a strong understanding that I must have total respect for my teachers and anyone wearing a uniform.  It was a given.  Those in ‘authority’ were right – end of story!

The problems this thinking created was unprecedented power to those in authority, many of whom abuse this in sometimes quite shocking ways.  It provides an unbalanced and unhealthy relationship.

THE BENEFIT OF QUESTIONING

Questioning is a major form of human thought and interpersonal communication. It involves employing a series of questions to explore an issue, an idea or something intriguing. Questioning is the process of forming and wielding that serves to develop answers and insight.

No-one can make a truly Informed Decision without questioning, without doing due diligence, without shopping around so you can make the right choice for you.  Having BLIND FAITH simply gives all the power to one person and in the case of pregnancy care and birthing choices, every woman has the right to question as all her decisions are being made on behalf of her unborn baby.

Take the case of one young ‘pregnant’ Dad, a 38 yr old professional whose partner was due to give birth in a few weeks.  Booked with a private doctor and private hospital and when invited to ask questions his reply was  – “I don’t have any questions or concerns, I haven’t done any reading or Googling because I have total faith in the doctor and hospital to deliver my baby and do the right thing”!  WOW!  So no faith in your partner to birth your baby???

This is quite extraordinary and concerning.  Once you become pregnant you begin your parenting journey – from conception.  Every test, ultrasound or other invasive procedure impact the unborn baby.  You have a responsibility to question – everything!  To show the baby you ‘have his back’, to reassure you will not let anyone do anything to jeopardise his physical, emotional and mental well-being in utero or on the outside.  This is a basic human right for the unborn baby.  Do not hand over your child’s welfare to anyone without questioning.  It is Your labour, Your birth, and Your baby.  It is no other person or institution’s responsibility.  Begin at conception and always teach your baby/child to question.  A hospital is not going to ‘deliver’ your baby.  A doctor is not going to ‘deliver’ your baby.  You are a birthing woman and you can birth your baby.  Pregnancy and birth is not a medical issue.  It is a very normal event in a woman’s life.  Take charge and be empowered and question – everything until you are satisfied with the answers.

When pregnant for the first time, it is a brand new event in a couple’s life.  It does not come with a manual, although there have been many attempts, in the form of books, television, and movies and with no previous experience it is often difficult to know what to ask and most importantly what answers you should be getting.

This is why I highly recommend hiring a doula who is experienced in guiding you through this process, protecting your rights and empowering you to make the right decisions for you and your baby     https://birthright.com.au/doulas/find-a-birth-right-doula/

You can also find a list of questions to ask in my book:  Birth Right

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Most importantly do not hand over your birthing power to anyone.  It is yours to keep and hold onto.

Letting go of emotional baggage will free you to create your desired future.  Having and holding on to negative emotions changes brain chemistry.  This altered chemistry perpetuates more negative thinking and a downward spiral begins.

Negative emotions are not safe for the body.  Each negative emotion has an impact and can contribute to health problems such as:

Anger:  heart attack, raised cholesterol

Sadness:  weakened immune system, depression

Fear:  excessive stress, PTSD, phobia

Guilt:  lowered healing energy

When you feel good, your brain releases chemicals like serotonin and oxytocin. When you’re stressed, your body releases cortisol, kicking you into survival mode. So in every sense, the things we think and the things we feel are able to impact us physically in quite profound ways.

People HAVE behaviours, they are NOT their behaviours.  Each person has inside them all the resources they need to make change happen.  All that is needed is new information and strategies to assist in making the change.

MEMORIES AND YOUR TIME LINE

Your “Time Line” is how you unconsciously store your memories or how you unconsciously know the difference between a memory from the past and a projection of the future.  Behavioural change in an individual takes place at an unconscious level.  People don’t change consciously.  The Time Line Therapy® process allows you to work at the unconscious level and release the effects of past negative experiences and change “inappropriate” programming in minutes rather than days, months or years.

WHAT IS TIME LINE® THERAPY

Time Line® Therapy is a process that assists in:

1. Letting go of negative emotions from the past
2. Letting go of limiting decisions from the past
3. Creating a future that you want

Negative Emotions – Time Line Therapy® techniques allow freedom from undesired negative emotions such as anger, fear, sadness and anxiety, by releasing these emotions from the memories that harvest them.  A person is then able to react freely to future situations – without the emotional baggage of the past

Limiting decisions and beliefs prevent you from achieving your potential. These decisions and beliefs have come about as a result of past experiences but may have stayed with you and have limited your life in many ways. Time Line Therapy® techniques allow you to leave these decisions and beliefs in the past where they belong and to learn from your experiences. This gives you the opportunity to create useful and empowering alternatives.

Creating Your Future – Time Line Therapy® gives you a specific way of creating your future dreams and goals in a simple process that produces results

Are negative emotions holding you back from achieving what you want in life?

If you want to gain emotional control over your life then Time Line Therapy® together  with some hypnotherapy techniques, will allow you to eliminate many issues in your past, freeing you to move forward and create goals and desires you want.

Contact:  Susan Ross to make an appointment:  0419 606 171  e:  susanmrossO@gmail.com

Hypnotherapist, NLP Coach, Time Line® Therapist

IT’S ALL ABOUT THE BABY

Everything a pregnant woman thinks and feels is transmitted to her unborn baby through neuro-hormones.  A baby also becomes aware of his Dad’s communication during pregnancy.

https://www.smh.com.au/politics/federal/a-grey-area-barnaby-joyce-raises-doubts-over-whether-he-s-the-biological-father-of-vikki-campion-s-baby-20180303-p4z2ob.html

Most pregnant women are very aware of the damage alcohol, nicotine and other drugs can do to the unborn baby, but many are not aware that maternal anxiety, depression or stress alters the intelligence and personality of her unborn baby by altering the wiring in their brain.

During the journey of growth and development for the 9 months in utero the unborn baby registers every experience in the circuitry of his or her brain.  Whenever a mother strokes her baby, whenever a father plays with his baby/child, those physiological acts will be instantly converted to neuro-hormonal processes that transform the body and wire the brain of the child.

Evidence that babies are sensitive, cognitive and vulnerable to trauma from experiences in the womb and at birth comes from various sources.  There are many women who have a natural connection and exchange of thoughts and feelings with their unborn baby, acknowledging their unborn baby is an aware person with whom they can converse and receive responses.  Laying down this loving, intelligent blueprint is an essential responsibility that many pregnant women assume.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWgp4f0xOe0&authuser=1

So when you have a very public statement from a ‘father’ announcing to the world that he is unsure if he is the biological father of his unborn child, imagine how that must feel for that baby.  And yes, know that baby is very aware of this turmoil and stress with his mother and ‘queried’ father.

Every child deserves to know who they are and where they have come from.  That is, who is my mother and who is my father.  Your identity is essential to healthy emotional and social growth and is the RIGHT of every baby.  Surely this statement from Joyce shows a lack of intelligence but most importantly, absolute disrespect for an unborn baby’s rights.

At our Inside Birth® prenatal classes you will learn the importance of emotional and intelligent connection with the unborn baby and how to lay down a beautiful imprint, preparing for a beautiful welcome to the outside world.  Book now with one of our Inside Birth® Educators here:  https://birthright.com.au/inside-birth-delivering-antenatal-classes-differently/find-an-inside-birth-educator/

 

Weaning an older child requires patience and understanding.

Breastfeeding is a wonderful thing and you are giving your baby the best start in life.  It is a powerful, beautiful connection that is indescribable to anyone who has not had this experience.  Breastfeeding is the key cementing bond which lasts a lifetime between mother and child.

My children are close together in age and I was pregnant and/or breastfeeding for 5 years – non stop!   I breastfed my first until I was 24 weeks pregnant with my second baby and then breastfed him until he was 3 years old.  By then, I was very tired, very exhausted, very drained (literally) and those 5 years are a bit of a blur, but I loved it and would do the same again, but make sure I had a whole lot more support.

It is a real challenge to wean an older child.   Generally, if the child has not initiated weaning naturally by about 18 months, then the weaning needs to be mother initiated.

WHY DO MOTHERS WANT TO WEAN

There are many reasons why women want to wean their older child.  The obvious ones are returning to work, demands of other children and partner demands.

Other reasons include:

• Over-whelming tiredness, often accompanied by understandable low iron levels.
• Very restrictive for time management
• Dealing with other people’s comments and stares when out in public
• Family pressure
• Managing work, family and breastfeeding seems impossible at times
• ‘I want my body back – especially my breasts’ is a common catchcry

WHY WOMEN FIND WEANING CHALLENGING

• GUILT – I think we marry guilt when we have children
• FEAR – of mastitis and other stuff
• FEAR – of having a very upset child, therefore more guilt
• FEAR of it not working and easily ‘giving in’ and therefore having to start all over again – at some point
• WORRY over ‘am I doing the right thing at the right time’ and will this do any long term psychological damage to my child
• Pressure from partners/family

WHY CHILDREN WANT TO CONTINUE BREASTFEEDING

Of course it can become just a habit – a very comforting habit but for many older children it is about keeping Mum close and it is their only way (in their mind) of being reassured of love and connection, especially if Mum is busy with other children and activities.

SEPARATION

A child does not see themselves as a separate person from their Mum until around 3 years.  So separation is the main event that makes weaning very difficult for the child.  Separation happens if Mum is returning to work, if child is placed in a child care centre, if child is in the care of other family members on a regular basis, and many other scenarios.  We all have ‘separation’ from our babies/children and it is about how that is managed that can make all the difference to weaning.

SOME TIPS ON WEANING AN OLDER CHILD

1. Pick the right time – it is not the right time if Mum is returning to work or any of the above scenarios.  Pick a time when your child is in a really happy stage of development and family life is running relatively smoothly – it’s never perfect!
2. Try and replace some daytime feeds with other distractions – NOT an ipad but replace with lots of cuddles, tickling games, engaged play – anything that keeps you both really close, physically, and is interesting enough to distract.
3. Talk with your child. This works brilliantly if you show them you understand their need for closeness and bonding and introduce them to other ways of having that special bond, just with Mum.
4. If your child has a doll or teddy they are particularly attached to, this can be a great way of transferring the conversation about weaning.
5. Cooking – introducing new flavour sensations with some special cooking time with just Mum is also a great distraction.
6. Relax and take the pressure off.  Look after yourself and trust the slow and gentle approach

Know this is not a quick fix.  Weaning at any age is a process that happens more quickly for some children while others take much longer.

It is important to acknowledge why your child still wants you close through the very special bond that is breastfeeding.  Take a step back and look at what else is happening in your life and why they may be ‘hanging on’ to this breastfeeding time and look at how you can wean them slowly and gently into feeling safe and confident with separating.

Don’t expect miracles overnight.

Remember every child is different.  What worked for one will not necessarily work for others.

Be patient and embrace the weaning with much love, understanding and respect for your child’s needs –  it will be worth it in the long run.

I am very selective about the value I put on this Inside Birth® Educator training and accreditation, and not everyone understands the values of ‘education from conception’.

Taking this training will change your self-image and transform you on a deeply personal level.

You cannot teach this to pregnant couples until your belief systems are altered and changed, about how new beings are created, grown, birthed and parented.  You first must have your core beliefs challenged for personal development and personal growth.

This Inside Birth® Training gives you the opportunity of understanding ‘mind imprinting’ from a higher logical level.  It will change your neurology.

A successful Educator knows you must not only talk the talk, but also walk the walk.  An Inside Birth® Educator affects change and produces results.  You master the program and content of Inside Birth®.

Everything you learn to teach is about excellence.  Everything you gain is about confidence in presenting.

I provide ongoing mentoring and you will build business skills that are a must if you are to have a real impact.

When you have graduated the commitment is to ‘go teach this stuff’.  Mastering something takes discipline, persistence and focus.  This is a journey of personal transformation and growth for you and your clients.

You will become an empowered Inside Birth® Educator.  It’s the belief that you, as one, matter, that YOU CAN make a difference and affect change for unborn babies and their parents.  You will be on a path that is so worth it!

Book training NOW and save with Early Bird Discount!

https://birthright.com.au/training/inside-birth-childbirth-educator-training/

When you study at our training academy I request that all trainees come with an open mind.  For our 4 day face to face Inside Birth® Educator training there is no prerequisite reading or study before attendance.  Why?

If you cannot change your mind you cannot change anything

Many people find being open-minded very challenging.  We have all grown up with a fairly fixed set of beliefs and values, and it can be difficult to truly be open-minded and make change happen.

There are so many advantages when you can open the door to your mind and let new ideas and beliefs enter.

Those who are open-minded are willing to change their views when presented with new facts and evidence.

It is much more difficult to learn and embrace new ideas if you arrive at training with a set of preconceived views.

I want you to come with a blank slate, so you can learn, absorb, engage and have space to let new knowledge enter the mind – and settle.  This also makes the training tantalisingly anticipatory, exciting and stimulating.

INSIDE BIRTH® – ‘delivering prenatal classes differently’

Becoming an Inside Birth® Educator and learning how to teach at this level sets out to challenge entrenched old beliefs.  You will have the opportunity throughout these 4 days to discover where your views, your fears and anxieties come from and the importance of being open-minded when you are teaching these skills.

You will learn:  ‘to be present’, to communicate for effective change, to teach hypnosis and some NLP techniques, how to engage a group, and teach the importance of creating the right blueprint in the subconscious mind of an unborn baby – from conception.

During the 4 day training you will be taken to a new level of birth knowledge and how to let go of what you no longer need

You will learn:  that being open-minded will give you the gift of heightened insight and wisdom

If you want a change of career that sets you up for making change happen in pregnancy, labour, birthing and parenting – honestly, simply and powerfully, then check out our Early Bird Offers here:

https://birthright.com.au/training/inside-birth-childbirth-educator-training/

Taking advice from an expert is what many people accept without question, especially when it comes to pregnancy, birthing and parenting.  It has become a very competitive business.

• I don’t take financial advice from people who are broke or cannot demonstrate their wealth
• I don’t take health advice from unhealthy people
• I don’t take advice from people with toxic or boring relationships
• I don’t take business advice from people who have failed in business
• I don’t take advice from psychic or spiritual people who are unhappy

HANDING OVER YOUR POWER

What happens when a pregnant woman takes advice from a pregnancy and birthing ‘expert’?  She hands over her power, which gives the ‘expert’ an opportunity to promote their agenda.

Pregnancy is not a sickness or disease and no woman should be told HOW to have a pregnancy, give birth and then it gets even worse! – how to parent.

Of course women feel overwhelmed at the beginning of their pregnancy – probably because they are suddenly bombarded with so much ‘advice’.

The negative effects of this often prevents a true connection with their newly forming baby.  A woman simply does not have time, or energy because she is so busy booking appointments, checking out what she should and should not eat, drink, exercise and following the often ‘well-meaning’ advice from friends, relatives and work colleagues.

So what if there was a way you could make the necessary decisions, without giving over your power?

HOLDING ON TO YOUR POWER

It is challenging to put the hand up and STOP the ‘advice’ pouring in.

But many feel they have no knowledge and don’t know where to start.

Book an early consultation (Skype available or face to face) with me and I will walk you through how to shop around, ask the right questions and most importantly what answers you should be receiving.

Every decision you make you are making on behalf of your unborn baby.

The most important part of pregnancy is to take time to ‘still the mind’ and truly connect with your unborn baby.  You have the knowledge, deep within, and the ‘advice’ must be put in its box, to give you an opportunity to tap in to what you really feel is right for you and your unborn baby.

Check out the list of questions in my book – what you should be asking caregivers and hospitals?  Or book an appointment.

0419 606 171

susan@birthright.com.au

 

 

It’s all in the MIND! – the most important component of conception, birthing and parenting.

Preparation for planning to conceive, for a man and a woman, is important for an enjoyable pregnancy, labour, birth and a happy healthy baby, physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.

Most women are aware of the physical preparation, like healthy eating, stop smoking, drinking alcohol, and being physically fit.  But birth is much more than just a physical event.  You bring to this your whole life history, your life experiences, your relationships, belief system, lifestyle and societal conditioning.  Whilst being physically well prepared is essential, what is going on in your mind is critical to how conception and birth unfold.

DID YOU KNOW your mind does not forget things but simply files all your life experiences away in the subconscious mind, including your views about birth which were formed when you were in utero.

Healing negative experiences and thought patterns is vital so as not to pass on to the next generation and repeat unwanted familial behaviours.

We therefore must start with how you were conceived, grown, birthed and parented and heal any negative experiences from your subconscious mind.  This will give you the perfect opportunity to create a new little human, with a welcoming, loving and positive mindset.

DID YOU KNOW that hypnosis is the best way to retrieve unconscious memories that may have an unknown but unwanted impact on your life and decision making.

THE HYPNOTHERAPY TECHNIQUES THAT I USE WILL HELP YOU:

• Identify and heal any fears and limiting beliefs
• Release patterns of negative behaviour or habits
• Connect with your intuition and learn to trust yourself
• Train your subconscious mind to have a positive mindset about birthing and parenting
• Understand the power you hold to set the blueprint for your baby’s life (in utero)
• Understand all the fun ways to communicate with your unborn baby – from conception
• Empower confidence and trust in your ability to create and develop a new human, just the way you choose

THINKING ABOUT CREATING A NEW HUMAN?   Or JUST PREGNANT? – First and foremost make a commitment to heal your mind for the optimum environment for conception and pregnancy.

Book an appointment today with Susan Ross:  0419 606 171  or susan@birthright.com.au

 

“You know, on our particular night, on the night that beautiful Eva was born, having a doula didn’t seem to make a difference. We laboured alone in our house until about 3 am – this was an extraordinary and scary and beautiful and momentous period – and then I made the call to her. Susan drove over to our place and then shortly after, we went independently into the birth centre. Sarah continued to labour there until 11 am when Eva was born in the bath.                                                                                                                        

Things went well, we were in control. This is probably the key to what made Susan such a great doula – she was present without being a presence. In the lead up, she made an enormous difference – she (and her book) asked us to ask good questions, she is clear without being prescriptive and she possesses great integrity around the pregnancy and birthing process, her knowledge of hospital and midwifery structures is superlative.

She also took some beautiful pictures.”  Nigel

 

The most important 7 words written in this testimonial “she was present without being a presence”.  These powerful words are the key to being a doula.

DOULA TRAINING AT BIRTH RIGHT

• You will learn how to tap in to your own power, how to separate from any personal experience of birth, to be present as an aware, intuitive and connected doula.
• You will learn how to think outside the square
• You will learn about guiding a pregnant woman and her partner to question and research, understanding every decision in pregnancy is being made on behalf of their baby
• You will learn the importance of silence and being calm
• You will know how to apply creative thinking in the birthing space
• You will learn how to support with confidence

Make 2018 the year that you choose to ‘make a difference’.  There is a lot wrong in the world today but imagine the power of influencing the outcome of how a new person is grown, birthed and connected with his Mum and Dad.

Let’s make the world a better place – become a doula!

https://birthright.com.au/training/birth-post-natal-doula-training/

When should communication with your baby begin?

1. From conception

What is the most important type of communication?

2.  Talking

I had a pregnant woman recently in one of our Inside Birth® classes who stated she could never do this as ‘it’ wasn’t real yet and felt she was just carrying around a blob.  This woman appeared otherwise, intelligent.

Only 100 years ago experts in psychology and paediatrics were teaching that a baby at birth was virtually blind, had no sense of colour and heard very little – just echoes.  Textbooks showed that a baby could not know about change in temperatures at birth and that ‘emotion’ was something that developed a long time after birth.  It was accepted that it was not possible for a baby in the womb to learn, hear, remember, connect, or find any meaning in their experiences in the womb.

It is disturbing to find some of these views still exist, among professionals and parents.  No wonder people find it hard to believe that a traumatic birth, either caesarean or vaginal can have a lifetime of consequences.

Evidence today shows that a baby in utero is sensitive, cognitive and vulnerable to trauma from experiences in the womb and at birth.  Many women know their unborn baby is an aware person, and understand and enjoy a powerful and intimate connection in utero.  Thoughts and feelings are quite naturally shared.

Mothers who communicate most with their unborn baby know that this small person has a mind and soul with understanding, sensitivity and purpose.

But so often today a woman’s intuitive knowledge is dismissed by many in the medical world, to the point where women themselves are losing their belief in trusting their intuition, this innate power.

THE POWER IS WITH YOU

Any woman who is pregnant should feel hugely proud and grateful for you are creating the next generation AND all the power for how that unfolds belongs to you.  This is an amazing privilege which should not be taken for granted.

Life is busy!  It is the boring catchphrase of the 21^st century, BUT you must respect your time and live in the NOW with your baby – every minute of pregnancy is precious.

So you have chosen to make a baby and therefore accept responsibility for parenting – FROM CONCEPTION.  This is the extraordinarily fun time of parenting.

You hold all the power in creating a new human being, to love, to educate, to guide, to protect, to socialise, with a whole lot of skills, well before baby is born.

Imagine developing such a deep and meaningful relationship with your unborn baby and just how that will transfer to a wonderful labour and birth.  Women who have a real and deep connection with their unborn baby are able to work together during labour and birth, both enjoying the passage from Inside to Outside, both keen to meet on the outside.

COMMUNICATION IS SIMPLE

Just talk to your baby.  Tell him about your world, your hopes and dreams for him, about who is in your family, where you live, where you work, who are your friends…..the list is endless.  Here are a few tips, and once you start you will have so much fun teaching and showing your baby just what it’s like on the outside, and your connection will grow deeper every day of your pregnancy.  Dad’s need to do a bit more planning to connect with their baby in utero and have a whole lot of important ‘Dad stuff’ to share, so make time and the responses will reward you.

1. When you wake in the morning – say hello to your baby and tell him how you are feeling and ask how he is – you will be amazed at the answers you will receive
2. Talk to him whilst showering. Explain the beautiful warmth of the shower and how relaxed it makes you feel.  Check with him if he also finds it relaxing (he will, because you do)
3. Give him a guided tour of your home, especially where he will be sleeping and any preparations you are making for him.
4. Tell him all about your kitchen, what you like to eat, how does he feel when you eat that vindaloo curry – is it O.K. for him?
5. Tell him all about your job. Explain that during the day at work you need to concentrate on work stuff and so that would be a good time for him to have a sleep.
6. Introduce him to music, read books, go for walks and talk to him.

Your unborn baby is busy learning and imprinting everything he hears on the outside so take this golden opportunity and have fun.  You will have a wonderful birth and a happy contented baby on the outside, secure in the knowledge that he is loved and wanted.

To learn more book an Inside Birth class today:

https://birthright.com.au/antenatal-classes/find-an-inside-birth-educator/

BIRTH CLASSES

There are so many prenatal classes that teach different ‘tools’ for pregnant women to learn how to give birth. Women and their partners attend, in the hope of learning skills that will assist their labour and birth and often with the clear intention of avoiding medical intervention. Women are anxious to ‘get it right’ and practice the various skills taught.
Skills vary from pregnancy yoga classes, teaching different positions for labour and birth, anatomy and physiology – understanding how it all works!, visualisation techniques, affirmations, mantra’s to say in labour, massage, breathing and the list goes on…………

BUT WHAT EXACTLY DOES THIS SAY TO A WOMAN?

It clearly sends the message that you do not know how to labour and give birth, you must learn our special techniques so you can ‘do it properly’.
It shows one person as the expert and the pregnant woman as the uneducated student who must follow certain teachings
It promises ‘relief’ from…….whatever it is that woman is fearful of……
The message sent is disempowering, undermining, often humiliating, and can be frightening. Yes, very frightening. There are certain prenatal classes where the childbirth educator seems to almost take pride in telling couples horror statistics of medical intervention. Some time ago I worked in a private hospital in the middle of a large city. The obstetricians and anaesthetists were alarmed, as my team at the time, discussed and encouraged normal birth. These doctors insisted that we must change our narrative to promote the benefits of epidurals and elective caesarean sections – because that’s what women want! Shocking but true!

EMPOWERMENT

The dictionary defines this as:
“the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights”

Unfortunately this is often a misused word in the birthing world. It is a fabulous word which I love, but it does not seem to be working very well for many birthing women because what they learn in classes does not necessarily convert to the normal birthing experience they were hoping for. This leads to disappointment, feelings of failure and can be a contributing factor to postnatal depression.
Most women focus on getting their body fit and healthy either before but certainly during pregnancy. Common goals are to cut down or eliminate caffeine, smoking, sugar, fatty foods, alcohol and to increase physical fitness.
Whilst this is all important and necessary, the missing link to gaining true control and empowerment is in THE MIND.

CHANGING THE STORY

True empowerment and belief in your confidence to grow, birth and parent, comes from firstly changing the birthing story in the subconscious mind of the pregnant woman. This story was imprinted when you were in utero and secured as a true belief when you were birthed. If it is a negative story, then the story must be re-written in a positive way. This is the key to creating a ‘normal’, positive belief about birthing. This is the key to enjoying an amazing connection with your baby in utero. This is the key learning how to create a beautiful imprint for your unborn baby. And this is the key to you enjoying a wonderful, empowering birth.

HOW DO YOU CHANGE THE STORY?

This is simple and can easily be achieved through hypnosis. You will learn with our Inside Birth® classes that THE MIND is the focus. Learning how this works, will not only ensure a wonderful pregnancy and birth but you will discover an absolute power that is totally in your control.

Note: some women have an extraordinary amount of fears about pregnancy, labour and birth. I suggest additional hypnotherapy sessions to support what you learn at Inside Birth®.  To make an appointment please contact me at susan@birthright.com.au

Note:  if you are pregnant then check out our Inside Birth® educators here: https://birthright.com.au/antenatal-classes/find-an-inside-birth-educator/

Note:  if you would like to become an Inside Birth® Educator check out our training dates here:  https://birthright.com.au/training/inside-birth-childbirth-educator-training/

Advance Your Career, Business & Your Life

In just 4 days you will have the opportunity to become certified as an Inside Birth® Educator, so you will have the necessary skills to set up your very own Inside Birth® business the day after your training finishes.

This education will show the importance of parenting from conception, and understanding the relationship between mind/body/baby/emotions and actions.  This training teaches critical thinking and understanding your own power.

You will experience 4 days of life changing personal and professional development, which will have a positive change on your life, and all the pregnant couples you will go on to teach.

 

The really exciting stuff! – what will you learn?

Inside Birth® philosophy.  You will receive all necessary materials for teaching this program.

• Inside Birth® teaches parenting from conception.
• The important connection in utero and how to design and lay down the subconscious blueprint for life.
• You will learn the mind/body/baby connection
• Unique hypnosis skills, that work, for pregnancy, labour, birth and beyond
• Communication skills and how to teach
• Fears! – what are yours?
• Challenging your beliefs?
• INSIDE look at fears of a pregnant/birthing woman
• How to easily and effortlessly release these fears with our hypnosis
• Conscious Mind/Unconscious Mind and their role in birthing
• Inside Birth® hypnosis – learn and understand its true power
• Inside the baby’s developing mind – just fascinating!
• Hormones – the ebb and flow
• Basic anatomy & physiology, stages of labour
• Breastfeeding
• The hospital system and its workers – essential understanding
• Labour and birthing
• The all-important meeting on the Outside
• Learning how to chill out with our Inside Birth® chakra relaxation CD
• Educator skills – how to make this fun, intuitive and teach deep mind/body/baby connection
• The business of setting up your own classes with our ongoing support

FAQ’s

Can I make money as an Inside Birth® Educator?

The practical and very important stuff!  Yes you have the opportunity to make money as an Inside Birth® Childbirth Educator.  In fact, your commitment for this training should repay you with your first set of classes.

What if I have another job?

Becoming an Inside Birth® Educator is life changing.  This cutting edge training will change your thinking about how we enter the world and why that is important.

You can choose to make this a full time or part time career.  The Inside Birth® prenatal program is run over 4 weeks or weekend workshops and we offer a unique dip in/dip out package for pregnant couples.

What support is offered?

You will receive ongoing support and mentoring, including a profile on our website with all your class details.

Do I need teaching experience?

No.  This program is set out for you with an easy power point presentation, with beautiful images and all text, hypnosis scripts included.  It is a joy to teach and watch the amazing transformation from fears to excitement and confidence in all your pregnant clients.

Early Bird offer here:  https://birthright.com.au/product/inside-birth-educator-training/

Still got questions?? please contact me directly:  Susan 0419 606 171

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY PREGNANCY

Congratulations on your pregnancy. You may be feeling overwhelmed with all the many important decisions that need to be made – right now! The main ones being choosing the right place to birth, choosing the right caregiver, choosing the right prenatal class and choosing the right doula for you. However, the key to enjoying your pregnancy is to be happy. A baby growing in utero is acutely aware of all his mother’s emotional responses. A happy Mum = a very happy and secure baby.

BE HAPPY ABOUT:

1. The conception. Yes, you should feel very clever at this achievement as there are many couples that struggle to conceive.
2. This new little being who has chosen to come into your life and have you as his parents
3. The amazing changes happening in your body as it miraculously adapts to support growing a new little person
4. The amazing changes happening in your mind as it miraculously adapts to support all the emotional needs of pregnancy
5. Your contribution to society by creating the next generation
6. Partner, family and friend support
7. How your life will change as you embark on this amazing journey of learning about parenting – from conception
8. Embracing challenges that may present during pregnancy – you and baby working together to achieve the best outcomes
9. Embracing all the new learnings
10. And be happy about feeling very, very proud

BE GRATEFUL FOR:

1. Knowing that having a baby is a normal life event for a woman
2. Choice – you do have lots of choices and just make sure you choose wisely as every decision you make has a direct impact on your baby (book a doula early so she can walk you through all your options)
3. The powerful personal transformation you will experience. This emotional growth you have, will change you as a person – embrace it!
4. The confidence and power pregnancy brings. Never in your life has it been more important to be IN CHARGE. Take control of your pregnancy, labour, birthing and parenting and make the right choices on behalf of your unborn baby.

HAPPINESS MOMENTS IN PREGNANCY

1. Be proud of your growing belly. Take time to stop and take in that magnificent silhouette in the shop window as you walk down the street.
2. The first movements – gentle butterfly feelings to later more obvious and definite stretching
3. Extra attention from partner and family
4. Growing excitement about becoming a mother
5. Spiritual awareness. Many pregnant women develop an acute sensitivity to the world around them
6. A time to indulge in some serious pampering! Massages, facials, swimming, seeing movies
7. Music, music and more music. Your unborn baby loves music. He loves hearing his Mum singing and feeling her rhythms of dance
8. Connection – it’s all about the intimate, special connection a mother and baby develop. Talk to your baby, enjoy his responses. Tell him where you are going, what you are doing, discuss your feelings with him. You will be amazed at his recognitions.
9. Humour. Your unborn baby appreciates humour. This is a great time for Dad to share some jokes, or read out loud funny stories, cartoons, books.
10. Remember the more you communicate with baby, the more deep the connection grows and this can easily and beautifully translate into a wonderful labour and birthing. Watching a mother and baby truly working together in labour and enjoying this journey, is a privilege to witness. You know each other and are both anxious to meet on the outside. Birth can then happen easily and effortlessly.
There are, however, many women who feel a lot of anxiety and fears that prevent them from enjoying and being very happy in pregnancy. These anxieties can easily and simply be removed with Hypnotherapy.
Book an appointment today and discover how you can have a happy pregnancy.

Or phone Susan to have a chat:  0419 606 171

https://birthright.com.au/services/hypnotherapy/

PROMISES, PROMISES?

How many times have you heard from friends “I did blah blah prenatal classes, who promoted ‘natural birth’, and it didn’t work?  I practised and practised all the techniques and nothing worked!  Everything that could go wrong, did go wrong.”  These women are left disillusioned, disappointed, deeply traumatised with profound feelings of failure.  So why does this happen?

PRENATAL CLASSES

So many available.  So many promises.  So many ‘trends’ that come and go, each giving subliminal promises of a great birthing experience.  There are many classes that can instantly be dismissed – you know the ones – fear based, scary birthing institutions, who own shameful statistics on medical interventions in labour.  And there are many others ‘experts’ and teach (i.e. TELL) women how to birth.  And there are those that promote deep relaxation, meditation and hypnosis techniques, most are great.

NATURAL BIRTH

There is so much emphasis on the word ‘natural’, but in this context, I find it irksome! I want Women to focus on having a ‘normal’ pregnancy and a ‘normal’ birth.  Just be normal.  Being pregnant and giving birth is a very normal event and what women are designed to do.  ‘Normal’ is a word the medical profession can understand whereas ‘natural’ is a very different concept which causes confusion and a ‘natural’ objection.

When a motivated pregnant woman chooses one of the above classes (dismissing the fear based ones), that resonates with her and she commit’s to the ‘method’, it is understandably devastating when the birth goes pear-shaped.

So what goes wrong?  Is it the fault of the prenatal educator, or the class content or is it unrealistic expectations?

Whilst these may influence outcomes, it is not the main reason.

THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

The answer lies in the subconscious mind.  For many, many women, they need to prepare their mind by exploring their fears and anxieties BEFORE they attend a ‘good’ prenatal program.  This prepares the mind for unconditionally accepting and committing to the ideas and suggestions given in a ‘good’ prenatal class, and is much more likely to result in having the normal birth experience she wants.

The subconscious mind maintains the storage bank of memories that include everything that ever happened to you – every experience, relationship, word spoken – everything.  Not only are the memories of your every experience, good and bad, stored in your subconscious mind, but also the memories of the emotions and the environment that accompanied the experience.

This includes your own birth experience – how you came into the world AND even before that – your experience in utero.  The majority of people have no idea about their life in utero and how they entered the world.  They have never had the discussion with their own mother.  But these are among the very first memories imprinted.  What was your Mum doing, thinking, feeling during your pregnancy and birth?  What were her fears and anxieties?   This is where fears about birthing have their roots, and as a woman goes through life, many layers of anxiety are added through friends, media and much more.

You can have a beautiful and deeply connected birthing experience by eliminating these embedded beliefs BEFORE attending a prenatal class.  Clearing the negativity from the subconscious is done quickly and easily using hypnotherapy and Time Line® therapy.  Often only 2 sessions is required to create a clean slate, ready for imprinting your own positive story – for you and your baby.

https://birthright.com.au/services/hypnotherapy/